Show Them How
It’s important to model the behaviors that you want to see in children. If you want them to be courteous, then you should be courteous. If you want them to help someone do a job without having to be asked, then you should help them with some of their jobs. For instance, if your children have to clean up their bedroom, give them a helping hand. Don’t make it into a deal by saying, "If you do half, I will do half." That’s nothing more than bargaining with your children to get their cooperation. Instead, just walk in and offer a helping hand. It’s a great lesson in values.
Unless you model desired behaviors, children may perceive your rules and directions as arbitrary and unfair. Keep in mind, though, that this doesn’t apply to behavior which is considered acceptable for adults, but not for children. For instance, you don’t have to go to bed at the same time as your children. Neither do you have to tell the same type of jokes. Children need to learn that adulthood brings certain rights and privileges.
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