Lying
Lying is a breach of trust. A child only learns the value of trust if you respond accordingly. For instance, the next time the child says, "I don’t have any homework", you’re answer should be, "How do I know that? How can I be sure?" The same answer should be used whenever the child wants to do something alone like going out in the evening, staying over at a friend’s house, going to the store, and so on. You ask how he/she will behave in that situation. After you hear the response, you give the same answer used for the homework question. When the child can’t go places because of the lack of trust, the value of it will quickly become clear.
Also, it is important to remember that any child who can’t be trusted to behave on their own needs to be supervised. Most children quickly become exasperated with this situation. They begin asking to be given opportunities to show you that they have learned their lesson. This is now a teaching situation. Allow them small bits of freedom at first. If they handle themselves correctly, then gradually give more and more. Now they will understand the value of trust.
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