I hate you, Mom!
Do you worry that your child may say these words to you someday? If so, then you may find yourself falling into a trap, giving in to your child to avoid having to deal with hurtful comments. The danger, of course, is that your child will learn how to control you. All it takes is a few provocative comments and mom caves in.
If you understand what the comment means, you won’t be hurt by it. Children almost invariably say these words when they don’t get their own way, when parents have done their job of setting limits. You must understand that children detest limits, but they lack the ability to articulate their frustration. They can’t say, "You know, Mom, I really hate the part of your job where you feel obligated to place restrictions on me!" Instead, they say, "I hate you, Mom!" That’s not what they mean. They mean they hate your job, and you don’t have to worry about that. After all, they don’t even understand your job and won’t until they are parents themselves someday. So, don’t let your child’s provocative comments control you.
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