Dealing With Temper Tantrums
Between the ages of two and four, most children will try using temper tantrums to get their own way. If this tactic works, the children will continue to use it all the way through their adolescent years. Obviously, when teenagers have tantrums, the situation can be frightening for adults who may feel threatened and intimidate.
This problem is best dealt with before children are in Kindergarten. To do this, you must make sure that tantrums are never successful. Under no circumstances do you give in. Once you say no, then a tantrum must not change your answer. Research is clear that if tantrums are successful as little as one time out of ten, then they will get louder, longer, and more aggressive.
Watch out for the natural human tendency to give a child what he wanted he exchange for stopping a tantrum. It works like this - the child has a tantrum; you refuse to give in; the child stops having the tantrum; you now give him what he wants to reward him for being quiet. Unfortunately, what the child learns is that he got the reward for having a tantrum first and then stopping it on demand. A tantrum is still part of the sequence and, as with the previous example, these tantrums are sure to get worse. Don’t fall into this trap.
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